31 August 2019

Respite Care

A treasure of a 4 year old boy is asleep in the extra bed in Eli's room.  (admittedly, he fell asleep much faster tonite than he did last night and I'm thankful!)

After fostering LJ for nearly a year, he was able to move to a family that has great hopes of being his forever family (it's humbling when you come to the realization that your family may not be the best family for a particular child)(not sure if I have shared much about that)(maybe someday).  

We've been contacted by DFCS about a few other placements...but haven't been able to say yes for a variety of reasons - travel plans and the size of our house being the main 2 reasons.  Our house is more than sufficient for our family - but the bedrooms aren't very large and cannot really safely accommodate bunk beds because of fan placement, so bringing more kids into our home isn't as easy as we may want it to be.  We could house a young-ish boy and/or a baby...but the likelihood of a placement being that specific seems to be rare.  
We were contacted a week or so ago about doing respite (short term) care for a little boy.  We were grateful to finally be able to say yes!  We were told that he is a delight and never meets a stranger...he's living up to his reputation!  

There are high hopes of reunification for this one, his 4 siblings and their parents.   Pray with me for this family and specifically for the parents...pray for wise decisions and strength and energy!   I'm beginning to learn that foster care can be about so much more than providing a safe and stable environment for a child....there is the potential for partnership with the parents (I can see why there's a shift from the title of "foster parents" to "partnership parents").  There's the potential for investing in an entire family - not just the child - even if the investment is short-term.  I really want to get better at this type of investing.  Our friend Mark has a dream of working directly with and investing in at risk families in order to PREVENT kids from getting into the system in the first place - that's an Ephesians 3:20 request.  May it be so. 
On a semi-unrelated but totally related note, I'm amazed by the trust that is put in foster parents.  As this child was put in my car by people who don't know me, I was overwhelmed by the trust that they were putting in me - it made me grateful for every form that was filled out, every background check that was performed and every fingerprint that was required.  I hate the thought that sick and twisted people still slip through the system and do terrible things to children that are already so very vulnerable.  Hate it. 

God, please draw more and more trustworthy, kind and integrity-filled people to love and serve children in the foster care system -- if you happen to think that might be you and you live here in Georgia, here's a link to more information:  Georgia Foster Care

And even if you're not called to be a foster parent, there are plenty of ways to be involved in foster care,  Here are a few that are coming to mind: 
  • Foster Prayer (email me if you're interested in getting prayer updates diannacash@yahoo.com) - or just pray on your own.  All prayers for foster families, foster children, DFCS workers, care teams, foster care organizations and anything else you can think of are MOST WELCOME.
  • Be an Advocate for Foster Care - my friend Christal at Clement Care can tell you all about this one
  • Become a part of a care team for a foster family 
  • Bless and encourage and love on DFCS workers (I've got ideas! Let me know if you want to help the ideas come to life!)
Respite care for little ones...this may be our niche, at this for this season (though we're open to whatever the Lord has in mind for us and our family)
Surely there will be more to come (for me and for you, too).

29 August 2019

sweet little beautiful things

  • "to make me more like His son, God is going to deal with everything in me that's not like His son." - charles stanley (good thing to hear at 5:45am)
  • caroline's efforts to be a good big sister
  • lovely graphics
  • meeting valana...what a delightful cottage guest!  
  • more and more conversations about the cafe
  • marshmallow moments in monticello
  • pulling up "islands in the stream" and listening to it for the first time. (which led me down quite a fabulous music trail...ending with We are the World)(Goodness what a beautiful collaboration of artists! )(which brings up the fact that I used to "linger" on MTV if that video was playing....)(I wasn't supposed to watch MTV)
  • "walk on through the dark because that's where the next morning is." - bruce springsteen (in the preview for his biographical movie)
  • pushups at treadstone (not sure this video will work or not...)
  • "the Creator gets to define the creation." - from Overcomer
  • nick's thoughtfulness and planning for our kayak picnic date night 
  • gratitude quote


  • familiar faces and places in Overcomer!  
  • "wonderful times of refreshment will come from the presence of the Lord..."  Acts 3:20
  • vday and oreo bars and amazing children signing a significant contract

26 August 2019

I Declare War - quotes

I read a good book a while back...and I typed up my favorite quotes like I do...and then I forgot about the post and it's been tucked away as a draft ever since.  Seems fitting that God would bring it back to mind as we are in this "identity" series at CCC.
The book is called "I Declare War: 4 Keys To Winning The Battle With Yourself" and was written by a guy named Levi Lusko and it looks like this:

AND it's got all kinds of good stuff in it.

Here are my favorite quotes...my MOST FAVORITE QUOTES are bigger and/or bolder than all the rest (and a very few of my thoughts are in italics).  Consider this a sampling...and if you like the samples, check out the book!  I'm happy to lend out my copy.  All quotes are from Levi Lusko unless otherwise noted (except the images - I don't know who should get credit for some of those!).

Chapter 1 The Wolf You Never Knew You Wanted to Be
I want to be alone and I want people to notice me - both at the same time.  -Thom Yorke of Radiohead

Some people call it a bad mood, I call it being held hostage by the version of me I don't want to be.

There are brand new mercies waiting for you - you don't have to wait for the start of the day; you can seek the grace when you need it.  Only pride and silliness allow a bad decision to turn into a bad day and make you defer until tomorrow what you need to do right now.

The truth is, you don't have to stay in a bad mood any more than you have to stay in the wrong Uber.  If you got in, you can get out.

Proverbs 25:28 "whoever has no rule over his own spirit is like a city broken down, without walls."
Chapter 2 (+) or (-)
Bad things happen when you put a negative where there is supposed to be a positive.

I don't believe in positive thinking as a replacement for God but as a response to God.

What is faith if not a filter that allows you to process your experiences through the goodness of God, choosing to reject what you see and clinging to what you trust He is doing? Faith allows you to believe your beliefs and doubt your doubts.

Ever present joy is part of God's plan for our lives.
When you feel like complaining, see yourself acting selfishly, or find yourself slipping into a bad mood, shoot a prayer to God that is full of joy and gratitude instead.  Setting your mind on things above you is declaring war on low-level thinking.

...the way to use the word good....isn't to say that the bad thing is good - but to believe that goodness will be the end result.

You can be thankful IN the hard things...or in any thing hell can throw at you - because God has a plan to produce good from what you are facing.

Chapter 3 TSA on the Brain
In battle, the advantage always goes to the side in control of elevated positions.  Your mind is the high ground of your life.

"thoughts are like trains - they take you somewhere." - Kevin Gerald

When a train of thought shows up, don't just get on!  Slow down before you board...where are you taking me? are we headed to Lovelyville, Virtuetown or Good Report Station? Is this train going to Jealousy, USA? Rage City? Gossip Central?

You can't stop thinking about something by trying to stop thinking about it.  The only way not to think about pink elephants is to instead think about something else....Feed the positive and replace the negative.
Chapter 4 The Secret to a Miserable Life
"How much larger your life would be if your self could become smaller in it."  G.K. Chesterton

I'm not angry at the kids who picked on me.  I'm mostly sad at myself for wanting them to like me and for not respecting myself to the point that I put myself in harm's way.

...longing to be liked, celebrated, approved...I look for lesser versions of things that are already mine

Insecurity is a lack of confidence.  It comes from uncertainty about your worth, value, or place in the world.

It's ironic that we put on masks in hopes of finding love and acceptance, but people can't love someone they don't know.  (an excellent description of a variety of masks we wear can be found on pages 55-58)

It's so much less work to just be yourself.

You are what He thinks, not what you think.

When you know who are you, it doesn't matter what you are not.
...instead of showing up empty and looking to receive affirmation from kids at school, by looking to Jesus his tank would be constantly full.

Chapter 5 Mind Your Words
Be mindful of the things you say...the words you speak to others, the words you speak to yourself, the words you speak about your life, and the words you speak when you are afraid.

If you flip over any virtue, you'll find vice on the bottom.

Bricks can be used to build hospitals or be thrown through windows.  Water can quench a thirst or flood a city.  Words are neutral in and of themselves; it's how you use them that determines whether they are good or bad.

When the tongue is working properly, it is both a spring that refreshes and a fruit tree that nourishes.

If Jesus is the Lord of your life, He must be the Lord of your lips too.
Chapter 6 If You Say So
Use your words to surround yourself with belief and strength

You will feel how you speak and find what you seek.

Your words can unlock a life you love or one you loathe.

In an atmosphere of expectancy, the poorest effort can catch fire.  In an atmosphere of critical coldness or bland indifference, the most spirit-packed utterance can fall lifeless to the earth. - William Barclay

Chapter 7 Being Rude Is Not Cheap
Your intentions don't matter; your behavior does.  No one can hear what you wanted to say; we hear only what you said.  The impact you have on the world is what you're accountable for.

Being nice is one thousand times more effective than being a jerk.
Start taking note of the situations that blindside you and incite you to respond in a way you don't like.

How would the person I want to be handle this?

Ask God for strength and close the gap between who you are and you were born to be by making the right choice, regardless of how it feels in the moment.

...know that your perspective is not the only one.  How you see the situation may not be entirely accurate.

THIS NEXT QUOTE (exercise) IS REALLY GOOD for communicating with others.  really good:

The story I'm writing in my head is that you did ______ because you ______.  If that is incorrect can you help clear it up for me?  That lets the other person know how you see things and what your brain is trying to make of it, but it sets a soft tone because you haven't yet committed your findings to granite.  It gives both of you the chance to see things through each other's eyes.

The language gives room for the possibility that what you are bringing to their attention might not be the whole truth, and you are humbly asking them to shed light on how you see their actions.

Chapter 9 Start Before You Are Ready
It's a gift to be unsettled and unsatisfied, because it is in those moments we can potentially find what we truly need from Him.

A note to younger readers:  what you are doing now matters.  You are putting habits into motion while you are in high school and college that are going to hurt or help you down the road...

Chapter 10 The Game Before the Game
No matter what God does for any of us, the real bulk of our lives is made of unglamorous, unsexy, unspectacular opportunities to keep our eyes on Jesus (or not), press through anxious thoughts and worries (or not), and demonstrate perseverance and passion (or not) in the trenches of daily life.

Worship is not a feeling expressed through actions; it's an act of obedience that, once expressed, often leads to feelings. Simply put, you do it because it is right.  And in God's grace, many times the emotions follow suit.
I am not trying to impress people but am sent by God to bless people, a mind-set in which I am seeking to give a gift, not to receive one.  This stops me from looking for validation by reminding me I am already valued.  You don't need to earn what you already have.
Chapter 11 Never Bring a Horse to a Tank Fight
One of the biggest mistakes you can make is to try to do God's work without God's power.

Chapter 12 Butterflies and Eagles
And neglecting the Holy Spirit is like declining the offer of a friend with a truck to help you move, and instead opting to drag your furniture by yourself down the road.

Conclusion
When you are authentically yourself and walk humbly as a follower of Jesus, you can live in confidence without fear, distraction, depression, anxiety, worry, regret, quarrels, addictions, darkness, selfishness, self-sabotage, narcissism, the held-hostage version of yourself you don't want to be, or anything else that gets in your way or stunts your growth.

THIS.  THIS.  This next quote may have been my favorite part of the whole book - it's certainly the quote I've shared most since reading the book...so many of you are battling and I truly think this is why: 

When the devil messes with you, it's a mistake on his part.  Because every time he fights against something, he's tipping his hand so you can see what matters to him.  The only reason the enemy would come against you is because he sees value in you.  he wants you to throw you off the trail of your God-given greatness.  It's because you're precious that he tries to make you feel worthless.  the devil opposes what he is afraid of.

There are people in your peripheral vision who need to be noticed, and if you pay attention to them instead of wanting the world to pay attention to you, you'll tap into things God put inside you that are being neglected.

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God, will you help us to be who you say we are - who we TRULY ARE.  

Surely there will be more to come.


23 August 2019

5 minutes on the word of the week: release

It's been a while but I've found myself with 5 minutes so I requested a word.
Release
To let go.  Maybe especially to let go of what we no longer need to hold on to.  Release in order to grasp something else.  

The tricky bit may be knowing when to release and when to keep holding on.  

"Palms up hands open" is often the picture the Lord gives me in regards to things/decisions/plans.  

Fists clenched and holding on tightly doesn't seem to work...but neither does palms down and hands empty - unable to hold on to anything.  Palms up, hands open - ready and willing to receive whatever the Lord wants to put there, for however long...while ready to release it all back to Him.  (So then it's really up to Him whether something stays or goes.)  

These lyrics come to mind: 
I lean not on my own understanding,  My life is in the hands of the maker of heaven.  I Give it all to you God,  Trusting that you'll make something beautiful out of me.  I will climb this mountain.  With my hands wide open.
There's nothing I hold onto....
May God give us courage and wisdom and peace and grace to gently hold what He has entrusted us with...and faithfully release whatever it is He is asking us to release.  

22 August 2019

plenty of pictures this week

  • "I am loved and I am God's...and I wonder who God is turning me into." - Love Does for Kids, Bob Goff
  • getting going at treadstone again


  • hannah's voice to text "mishear" - laughing hard is good for me!  
  • delightful school day with emma
  • loaded baked potato (this was the first picture i took after posting last week's pictureless blog) 


  • katherine's delicious strawberry cake
  • the omojola's visit!

  • in all the running around and getting folks here and there i only forgot one pretty unimportant thing!  
  • blow up sumo wrestler suit fun in the pool 

  • easy peasy time submitting Zoe's passport application - and a super nice USPS worker (Sabrina, I think)
  • delightful and colorful zinnias 

  • celebrating caroline's 13th birthday
  • table full of older girls who invest so well in caroline
  • 3 new christy miller books for acc 


  • encouraging and confirming conversations over the cafe counter
  • never too early to learn ultimate 


  • hannah mae's coffee machine knowledge (and her willingness to share it)
  • how much zoe likes to see herself on the screen (learning the art of the selfie) 


  • a pizza and polar pop picnic in the pick up truck (and alliteration)
  • subway/brandon's generosity to provide cookie coupons to go in the kingdom kid's birthday cards 


  • sounds like the pool issue has been fixed (here's hoping)
  • how she was eager to pose for a "first day of science class" picture 


19 August 2019

thoughts from sunday's sermon - identity. beloved. hidden.

I had lots of thoughts during church yesterday morning and wanted to share them here.  These aren't really my notes from the sermon - but are things that came to mind during the sermon.  (I guess one could call those sermon notes - just wanted to clarify that these aren't really notes directly from what was spoken in the sermon) (I  must admit that I was pretty excited that my thoughts during the sermon had to do with the sermon - that's not always the case...)

We've started a new 4 week series at Christ Community on Identity (sermons can be found at ccclive.org - along with all kinds of other information about the life and happenings of CCC).

Identity is easily one of my most favorite topics.  If we all truly truly knew who we are in God...if we could all live as His beloved...man oh man.  That would change EVERYTHING!  We'd never feel insecure...we'd never compare...we'd never compete...we'd never be jealous...we could celebrate others...we would not worry or stress or strive...we could live in freedom and help others do the same...we could be loved and be love...

I want to live as His beloved.

The title of this 4 week sermon series is "Fully You"...though the phrase that came to my mind is "Fully His"...when we are fully His, we can be fully US (I can be fully me...you can be fully you...) When we know who God is (not perfectly, that's not possible!  He's so incredible to let us keep learning more and more and more about His character and love)...then we can hear who He says we are.

Questions to think on:
  • Who do you say God is?
  • What kind of God is He?
  • What does His voice sound like in your life?
Side note: if our picture/sound of God is one of condemnation or harshness or stern overbearing, we probably need to spend some more time with Him...

While the sermon series is titled "Fully You" the title of the message was "Come Out of Hiding"...which immediately made me think of Steffany Gretzinger's song with the same name.


Just think on some of these lyrics for a minute...
Come out of hiding you're safe here with Me
There's no need to cover what I already see
'Cause I loved you before you knew it was love
Now rid of the shackles, My victory is yours  
You can read the full lyrics here if you'd like.

I am beyond grateful that we are safe with Him. No need to hide.  He sees us - everything about us!  AND HE LOVES US.  He knows my selfishness and my self-centeredness...He knows my propensity to get overwhelmed and frustrated and my ridiculous quickness to criticize and compare.  He knows me.  All of me.  AND HE LOVES ME.  (and it's true for you, too.  He truly loves you.)

And it's His Love that matters.  It's His opinion that matters.  It's always been His opinion that matters.  It's always been His Love that matters.

Allowing myself to be defined by my own opinions or the opinions of others is just faulty and unpredictable and unreliable and, in the words of Kid President "it's just not right." (#2 in this fabulous video) (you're welcome)

So now the question is:  

  • Who does HE say that I am? 

This song could help you think on that.



  • Who are you, TRULY?  
  • Who does He say that you are? 

You can google "Who does God say that I am?" - and there are lots of resources and references and tools and sermons that are helpful  OR (and this is what I would recommend we all do) we can ask Him directly.  Just ask Him.  And sit and listen as He tells you who you are.  

Another one of my favorite questions to ask Him is, "God, what are your thoughts towards me?" That one is especially helpful when I'm feeling not so great about myself.

One of my final thoughts from yesterday's sermon goes back to "hiding".  Even though He's drawing us out of hiding - He says there's no need to hide from Him - He does say that we are hidden with Christ in God. So if you ever feel the need to hide, hide with Him.  Hide in Him.

And maybe in that hiding spot we can listen as He tells us more and more about who He is and who we are.

Surely there will be more to come.

15 August 2019

maybe next week there will be pictures.


  • the martins came over to swim (a couple of times!)
  • my napping buddy
  • remembering lyrics (and laughing) with nick ("...i don't know where i'm going to be tomorrow...")
  • how much people seemed to enjoy the philly freeze water ice at the CCC big event
  • the lovely and joyful moments of homeschooling
  • doughnut post-it notes
  • zoom call conversation with erin kirk 
  • the work of intermissionary
  • prolific mail monday
  • ice, ice and more ice
  • folks who say the honest but tough things...especially when an "easy way out" would have been understandable
  • the AFM has arrived in senegal
  • nick's willingness to print the journal for acc's birthday
  • hearing that a person's spirit is kinder and gentler than it has been in a while
  • the way molly just jumped in the pool :)

08 August 2019

abundance.


  • "freedom from possessions that allows for radical generosity"
  • the ease of GA's "declaration of intent to homeschool" (oh that everything was so easy)
  • a cottage guest that left the place pretty much immaculate
  • opportunities to get my eyes off of myself
  • seeing Ann Marie with her grandchildren (if you ever need homemade lotions, candles or soaps, check out Joy Lane Farm)


  • 2 sweet kitties
  • little projects that are right up my alley
  • cottage guests that bring Belgian chocolate (cause they are from Belgium)(why isn't it Belgium Chocolate?)
  • text from one particular son asking me to share something good about my day
  • zoe wearing a dress that emma wore


  • 50 minute phone call with my brother
  • green light kind of meeting about hopes and dreams
  • hearing more about Hope Springs Community Church
  • celebrating God's creation of molly...with hand-me-over balloons and mug treats and polar pops
  • AB Baby and her sweet care of Zoe


  • multiple nights of game playing at the cash table
  • yaya's love and care for her brother
  • beginning conversation about praying circles around our children
  • girls making up dances and recreating sketches
  • reminders of the work and power of the Holy Spirit

01 August 2019

peaches and pools and all kinds of things.


  • talking with hannah about thankfulness - i love her and i love that topic!
  • leftover bagels and english muffins (community group bonus)
  • seeing familiar faces at aldi
  • satan is DEFEATED
  • post airport drop off coffee plans with katie
  • when cottage guests leave the exact item we were needing (in this case, soy sauce)
  • shish kabobs
  • reading through my thankful journal and REMEMBERING God's kindness and faithfulness
  • when the amazing smell from the grill is our dinner
  • holy moments in the "sun parlor"
  • watching zoe figure things out


  • pre-airport pick up chili's with lisa - it sure didn't feel like it had been 4 years
  • sweet change of pace
  • getting to borrow the next level of emma's math curriculum
  • the kindness of the kent bicycle customer support person 
  • the way the internet cooperated at just the right moment 
  • walking on all the spicy streets with lauren
  • getting to see pictures of nick and the oldest 3 enjoying their trip
  • amy's kindness to have me and zoe over for dinner
  • perfect timing for picking up my family from the airport
  • fresh peaches (straight from the cook's tree peaches!!)
  • the pool has recovered!